Attitude is everything. Mental attitude, it doesn’t matter what the end goal is, either can help you get there or impedes your progress and another of the most damaging attitudes you can adopt is victim-mentality.
What is victim-mentality?
Victim mentality can be a negative mindset. It places blame on other folks and circumstances for just about any unhappiness felt within.” It is the proverbial “point the finger out” scenario.
Those engaged in victim-mentality, view life by having a narrow lens of pessimistic perceptions, believing whatever is situated life is the consequence of outside causes. Inner reflection is rarely considered. Being a victim means absolving themselves of blame. Nothing is their fault – ever! Those engaged in victim mentality frequently enjoy the attention, sympathy and validation they get from playing this “poor me” role.
When held in victim-hood, the main focus becomes how vulnerable we’re, as an alternative to on how powerful we have been.
While, nobody is born with victim mentality, we’re not exempt from playing the victim role either. Sweet elder grandparents, loving, well-intentioned moms and dads, teenagers as well as those considered “spiritually awakened” can all be found to dwell in this particular defeatist realm.
In fact, everyone alive has totally victim role over and over again in their lives.
Victims wish to be mentally prepared for the worst but yet, for anyone dwelling in victim-hood, this self-sabotaging behavior grows more powerful when things look like going their way as is also sure “disaster delays around the next corner.”
So, would you break free using this self-defeating, “poor me,” pessimistic type programming, many of which was developed and adopted since a child?
It all begins acquainted with your perceptions/how your view yourself. Do you perceive yourself being a survivor or perhaps a victim?
Survivors embrace life and flow by it. They are now living in the present and win control over their lives. They are fully aware they alone are responsible for what occurs. They realize that taking responsibility for his or her lives, they can be empowered to alter their lives.
Victims, in contrast, wallow in self-pity and argue with and test the limits at life. They dwell before, believing they may be helpless to alter circumstances – their critical for avoiding responsibility. They live defensively and grow frozen on time, without making progress his or her perceptions tell them they’re powerless.
The expense of victim mentality is high. It negatively affects all areas of life – professional and personal. Those who see themselves to be a failure, are dwelling in victim-hood because failure only concerns those who surrender.
If we want to shift outside of victim mentality, we’ve got to first purchased it. We can’t change that which you don’t own. We must shift our attitude and be aware that “change gets underway with me.” We must embrace survival and take actions steps… it doesn’t matter how small or insignificant they could seem now, towards some goal we’re also looking to attain.
Most importantly, we’ve got to continually empower ourselves with “I can” and “I will” statements and hang a stop to degrading “I can’t” or “I won’t” statements and beliefs.
And, we need to embrace gratitude – the maximum of attitudes. Daily, we should instead take time to think of all the things that will make us happy, on all the stuff that are going well within our life. Keeping our mind/energy centered on positive situations allows you counteract victim mentality.
In the final, we have to honor ourselves sticking with the same degree of respect and love we try to give others. Only then will our minds and actions shift away from victim-hood to survival mode.
Truth is, we’re not able to control other’s actions or every circumstance that occurs in our lives, but we could control the way we react to them. We don’t ought to be victims. It can be a choice. Whatever happens or comes our way, we should view it as being a challenge but not an excuse.
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